Saturday, 1 September 2012
What else makes a relationship work?
1. You've got to spend time together - Take some time out of your busy schedules to spend just together doing whatever you both enjoy most.
2. Always continue to compliment each other - Most couples compliment during the start of the relationship, but then this dies down as the months go on. Don't follow the trend!
3. NEVER try to change your partner - Trying to change your partner will only drive them away, if you really care for your partner, you'll love them for no matter what, unconditionally.
4. Always compromise and adjust - There isn't any harm in making adjustments in a relationship to keep it working, its part of the system. So make that extra effort to keep things working great!
Friday, 31 August 2012
What makes a relationship work?
1. Treat each day like a new day. You'll learn new things about each other, so life will be full of surprises and each day will be a new discovery. It's time to learn each others flaws and traits.
2. If there is something bothering you, learn to discuss and sort out your problems between either of you. Hiding your feelings will only compromise your relationship in the long run.
3. Sharing a bank/account will be a great way to understand what your partner likes to buy as well as help you work together to manage your lifestyles. It's best to work things out before you spend money to prevent future arguments.
4. If you are ever going through a rough time, keep smiling. Every time you see your partner, let them know how you feel towards them, you'll pass the grey times in no time.
5. Always forgive and forget. Couples have their ups and downs, that's the joys of relationships.
Monday, 6 June 2011
Being Single in the City
They say every good writer knows when to stop writing. I do not consider myself a good writer but I do know when it is time to end. Words cannot describe what the impact this blog has had on my life. It is really life changing....I’ve made an amazing group of friends...some of my closest friends started off as readers of the blog. 800 entries, six years and many tears later, it is time to end one chapter of my life...and start another one.
When God closes a door, he really opens a window...one that faces an amazing piazza in Rome.
I am not sure if I am any wiser or smarter after all the posts...all the experiences...good and bad...the joys and heartbreaks...the crazy bosses and work colleagues, the holidays and the travel for work. Life is not a dress rehearsal.
The last twelve years in Sydney have been amazing. I would not change anything...well maybe one or two things but overall there are no regrets. It is all part of the journey and I feel more positive and secure in the future. Thanks for sharing my life...
The blog has been my salvation...being single in Sydney is tough..so thank you for sharing the last few years with me. I appreciate your comments, feedback and e-mails. Thank you for sharing your own story with me...when you share I do not feel alone.
The search for love is a universal one...and I’ve met readers (in person and through emails) from all over all the world. Straight, gay, boy, girl...everyone out there is looking for love.
As Carrie Bradshaw once said, "I'm looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can't-live-without-each-other love." Carrie could not see it in that hotel room in Paris. I cannot see it in Sydney. So I’m changing my life and leaving...to search for my great love...he’s out there. I do not know where I will end...as my journey is just beginning but I know something wonderful is coming right around the corner. I know things are about to get better. I feel empowered by my actions and know that I am in control of my own destiny.
Thank you and I wish you all well. Comments (via email - sydney102@hotmail.com) are appreciated. Stay posted for info on how to buy the book version of this blog (out hopefully later in the year).
I will continue blogging - no longer as the single guy and look forward to our paths crossing on the blogosphere.
When God closes a door, he really opens a window...one that faces an amazing piazza in Rome.
I am not sure if I am any wiser or smarter after all the posts...all the experiences...good and bad...the joys and heartbreaks...the crazy bosses and work colleagues, the holidays and the travel for work. Life is not a dress rehearsal.
The last twelve years in Sydney have been amazing. I would not change anything...well maybe one or two things but overall there are no regrets. It is all part of the journey and I feel more positive and secure in the future. Thanks for sharing my life...
The blog has been my salvation...being single in Sydney is tough..so thank you for sharing the last few years with me. I appreciate your comments, feedback and e-mails. Thank you for sharing your own story with me...when you share I do not feel alone.
The search for love is a universal one...and I’ve met readers (in person and through emails) from all over all the world. Straight, gay, boy, girl...everyone out there is looking for love.
As Carrie Bradshaw once said, "I'm looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can't-live-without-each-other love." Carrie could not see it in that hotel room in Paris. I cannot see it in Sydney. So I’m changing my life and leaving...to search for my great love...he’s out there. I do not know where I will end...as my journey is just beginning but I know something wonderful is coming right around the corner. I know things are about to get better. I feel empowered by my actions and know that I am in control of my own destiny.
Thank you and I wish you all well. Comments (via email - sydney102@hotmail.com) are appreciated. Stay posted for info on how to buy the book version of this blog (out hopefully later in the year).
I will continue blogging - no longer as the single guy and look forward to our paths crossing on the blogosphere.
Sunday, 22 May 2011
How love feels.
Love is a tricky emotion. There are some things that feel like love but they are much too superficial to be the real thing. Real love takes time and doesn't happen over night. Here are three things that people often confuse for love.
Lust
Lust is the feeling that is often mistaken for love at first sight. Lust is an intense and sudden attraction to somebody you hardly know. It is mistaken for love because the attraction is so strong.
Lust can feel like love because the feelings of attraction are strong and all-consuming. The emotions stirred up by lust can feel very real but they are based on a fantasy. To love somebody you must know them well but many people fall in lust while they are still strangers. What people in lust fall for is a fantasy of what might be and reality can get lost in the excitement.
Overwhelmed by physical attraction people in lust can't keep their hands off of each other. They think about each other constantly and talk about one another all the time. Lust is a happy feeling brought on by passionate attraction. If you are inexperienced in matters of the heart it is very easy to mistake all that passion for love.
Lust differs from love like night differs from day. Lust happens in the early phase of a relationship when people don’t yet know each other. Lust is based on a fantasy, and the fantasy and reality don’t always mesh up. This is where lust runs out of steam.
Although physical attraction is definitely a key ingredient in any romantic relationship, love is more than just a physical longing. If a relationship is all about physical attraction it is based on lust. Really loving another person takes time and it can't be based on physical attraction alone.
Obsession
Obsessions are often mistaken for love because people rationalize the crazy feelings they are having. They assume that it must be love if the other person is always on their mind. Obsession is similar to lust but it is much more misleading and destructive. While lust is often fleeting, fading as two people come to know each other better, obsession sticks around.
The more time and effort invested in an unhealthy obsession the more intense the obsession can become. People in an obsessed state have a one track mind where the other person is concerned and they often lose touch with who they are as an individual. This loss of individuality creates a vicious circle of behavior where the obsessed person grows more and more dependant on the other person to bolster their sense of self.
Even unrequited love, love that is not returned, can become an overwhelming obsession. When one person believes they are in a relationship that doesn't really exist, or when one person is more invested in an existing relationship than the other, the foundation for an obsession has been laid.
Real love is nurturing and helps people grow but obsession is debilitating. If you feel like you have lost yourself, if you are always striving to please your partner without them doing the same for you, and if you find yourself making all decisions in your life based on the feelings and needs of the other person you could be dealing with obsession.
Rebounding
A rebound is a relationship that starts up very quickly after another relationship has ended. Rebounds are rarely based on love but are really a way of alleviating the loneliness people feel when a relationship ends.
Rebounding can feel like love for the simple reason that the people involved want to be in love. They are used to the security of being in love and more than anything else they want to feel that security again. They convince themselves that they are in love when they are actually missing the safety and comfort of the relationship they left behind.
If an old relationship keeps interfering with the progress of a new relationship it could mean that the relationship is a rebound. When somebody is on the rebound they are not entirely over their previous relationship. They may still be trying to work out unresolved issues from that relationship. Rebound relationships may feel like love but they are still impacted by unsettled feelings from the past.
Lust
Lust is the feeling that is often mistaken for love at first sight. Lust is an intense and sudden attraction to somebody you hardly know. It is mistaken for love because the attraction is so strong.
Lust can feel like love because the feelings of attraction are strong and all-consuming. The emotions stirred up by lust can feel very real but they are based on a fantasy. To love somebody you must know them well but many people fall in lust while they are still strangers. What people in lust fall for is a fantasy of what might be and reality can get lost in the excitement.
Overwhelmed by physical attraction people in lust can't keep their hands off of each other. They think about each other constantly and talk about one another all the time. Lust is a happy feeling brought on by passionate attraction. If you are inexperienced in matters of the heart it is very easy to mistake all that passion for love.
Lust differs from love like night differs from day. Lust happens in the early phase of a relationship when people don’t yet know each other. Lust is based on a fantasy, and the fantasy and reality don’t always mesh up. This is where lust runs out of steam.
Although physical attraction is definitely a key ingredient in any romantic relationship, love is more than just a physical longing. If a relationship is all about physical attraction it is based on lust. Really loving another person takes time and it can't be based on physical attraction alone.
Obsession
Obsessions are often mistaken for love because people rationalize the crazy feelings they are having. They assume that it must be love if the other person is always on their mind. Obsession is similar to lust but it is much more misleading and destructive. While lust is often fleeting, fading as two people come to know each other better, obsession sticks around.
The more time and effort invested in an unhealthy obsession the more intense the obsession can become. People in an obsessed state have a one track mind where the other person is concerned and they often lose touch with who they are as an individual. This loss of individuality creates a vicious circle of behavior where the obsessed person grows more and more dependant on the other person to bolster their sense of self.
Even unrequited love, love that is not returned, can become an overwhelming obsession. When one person believes they are in a relationship that doesn't really exist, or when one person is more invested in an existing relationship than the other, the foundation for an obsession has been laid.
Real love is nurturing and helps people grow but obsession is debilitating. If you feel like you have lost yourself, if you are always striving to please your partner without them doing the same for you, and if you find yourself making all decisions in your life based on the feelings and needs of the other person you could be dealing with obsession.
Rebounding
A rebound is a relationship that starts up very quickly after another relationship has ended. Rebounds are rarely based on love but are really a way of alleviating the loneliness people feel when a relationship ends.
Rebounding can feel like love for the simple reason that the people involved want to be in love. They are used to the security of being in love and more than anything else they want to feel that security again. They convince themselves that they are in love when they are actually missing the safety and comfort of the relationship they left behind.
If an old relationship keeps interfering with the progress of a new relationship it could mean that the relationship is a rebound. When somebody is on the rebound they are not entirely over their previous relationship. They may still be trying to work out unresolved issues from that relationship. Rebound relationships may feel like love but they are still impacted by unsettled feelings from the past.
Tuesday, 29 March 2011
Know Your Mate’s Expressions
You can easily know if you are liked by one of your dear friends. Like it’s said that the best basis for any kind of relationship may be friendship. Many people in a serious relationship would agree with this. It would be better if you make friendship with someone before going to the next stage. But how do you realize if your male partner sees you as something more than a friend? These are symptoms that should be considered:
He sees you as a special person. Not just because you’re a friend of him, because he likes you. If a man likes a woman, it’s manifested in their actions. Therefore, if your friend looks like more than a friend, it displays. He treat others differently. But with you, he wants to be more gentle and warm.
He calls frequently. Even if he does not have to say something important, you'll never have a day without getting his call. He will keep making topics, just to keep the conversation going. Women are known talkers, men are not. If your friend does this kind of activity, its a sign that he likes you.
He’s unable to keep his eye on yours when speaking. You probably do not know what he wants. The men are so self-conscious when they talk. But there is something that cannot be hidden. That's his eye. His eyes speak. Therefore, if you look into his eyes, you'll understand if he likes you or not.
He always says yes to your call for help. If you need a favor, he is the man for you. If your male partner is attracted to you, he will try to show that it is reliable. Never say no, because he wants to impress. In this way, he gives all the favors, hopes that you have the attention.
He goes out where you are. He does not stalk you. He just wants to be near you. He loves his business but wants to spend more time with you. Although he may be miles away, he will try to catch up to be near you.
The guy wants to comfort you when you are sad. He likes to be your confidant. He does this in order to spend more time with you. He is th one who is really worried about you. He wishes to be the shoulder of you when you are crying.. You just ,make one call, and he'll be there within a moment.
He always makes beautiful compliments about you. Frequently he talks about your beauty. He just can't stop himself from doing that. If you want to know if he likes you, this is the main symptom.
He sees you as a special person. Not just because you’re a friend of him, because he likes you. If a man likes a woman, it’s manifested in their actions. Therefore, if your friend looks like more than a friend, it displays. He treat others differently. But with you, he wants to be more gentle and warm.
He calls frequently. Even if he does not have to say something important, you'll never have a day without getting his call. He will keep making topics, just to keep the conversation going. Women are known talkers, men are not. If your friend does this kind of activity, its a sign that he likes you.
He’s unable to keep his eye on yours when speaking. You probably do not know what he wants. The men are so self-conscious when they talk. But there is something that cannot be hidden. That's his eye. His eyes speak. Therefore, if you look into his eyes, you'll understand if he likes you or not.
He always says yes to your call for help. If you need a favor, he is the man for you. If your male partner is attracted to you, he will try to show that it is reliable. Never say no, because he wants to impress. In this way, he gives all the favors, hopes that you have the attention.
He goes out where you are. He does not stalk you. He just wants to be near you. He loves his business but wants to spend more time with you. Although he may be miles away, he will try to catch up to be near you.
The guy wants to comfort you when you are sad. He likes to be your confidant. He does this in order to spend more time with you. He is th one who is really worried about you. He wishes to be the shoulder of you when you are crying.. You just ,make one call, and he'll be there within a moment.
He always makes beautiful compliments about you. Frequently he talks about your beauty. He just can't stop himself from doing that. If you want to know if he likes you, this is the main symptom.
Why Friends Are The Real Treasure
Who can find a true friend, finds a treasure. Some say that friends are worth more than parents. Friendship can be articulated as the union of two spirits, despite the diversity of employees. Friendship is a mutual bond that is felt deeply in the heart and expressed through signs and symbols.
You can come and strengthen the friendship a goal or an end. If a person has a goal, is the best way to keep the friendship of those who may seek to achieve this goal. Some people develop a deep friendship with no expectations except to see friends grow, develop and live in happiness.
The friendship may have feelings of Eros. That is a person connected with a person who is pleased with sensitivity as well as emotion. Some are looking for friendship with the emotion of Phelia, Similar to love of the parents. One can order and force the other to reach the end selfishly without leaving the other free to be himself freely. Here, individual freedom can be suppressed in the dark and is listed under emotional pressure.
Friendship is loving someone because of love, for the values of love. Here the friend may be a companion to accompany, but not touching the individual freedom of choice and without altering the the state of mind when others do not meet the order. Friendship with Agape does not seek satisfaction and reward. Here the self is forgotten, and the ocean of joy and happiness is felt, when a loved one is happy.
There is another expression of love and friendship expressed between teacher and student. Many students embody the values for the sake of love for his master. True friendship or real love is a far greater treasure than anything.
You can come and strengthen the friendship a goal or an end. If a person has a goal, is the best way to keep the friendship of those who may seek to achieve this goal. Some people develop a deep friendship with no expectations except to see friends grow, develop and live in happiness.
The friendship may have feelings of Eros. That is a person connected with a person who is pleased with sensitivity as well as emotion. Some are looking for friendship with the emotion of Phelia, Similar to love of the parents. One can order and force the other to reach the end selfishly without leaving the other free to be himself freely. Here, individual freedom can be suppressed in the dark and is listed under emotional pressure.
Friendship is loving someone because of love, for the values of love. Here the friend may be a companion to accompany, but not touching the individual freedom of choice and without altering the the state of mind when others do not meet the order. Friendship with Agape does not seek satisfaction and reward. Here the self is forgotten, and the ocean of joy and happiness is felt, when a loved one is happy.
There is another expression of love and friendship expressed between teacher and student. Many students embody the values for the sake of love for his master. True friendship or real love is a far greater treasure than anything.
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